HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE LOVED?
This seminar grew out of the question above: How Do You Want To Be Loved?
When I would ask this question of clients, there often followed a pause, a slight shutter in the body, a deep sigh, and sometimes tears. I am interested in that pause, the body response, the exquisite raw emotion that said, "See me."
I want to know what happens in the gap between the asking and the answer.
The question, is an invitation, and inquiry into a deeper, perhaps necessary conversation.
Through rituals, exercises, and Constellations, we will explore the "HOW" "the WANT," and what happens in your body and heart when you allow the question to settle.
Fee: $49.00 USD
This ONLINE workshop Via ZOOM is limited to 25 participants.
Saturday, February 11, 2023
2:00-5:00 PM EST New York Time
Please check your time zones for participation
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Disruptions in the flow of love, either through trauma, loss, or exclusions, create disturbances that, if carried across generations, often lead to illness, emotional distress, addictions, and broken relationships. Because the longing for repair and balance runs deep, children, out of love for mother or father, will try to carry their parent's pain and grief in an attempt to restore balance. The unconscious movement is to stay focused on the parents or grandparents and not find fulfillment in one's life.
"I will carry this (pain, grief, etc.) out of love for you" are the unspoken words of the contract that keeps us entangled with our family system. Thus, we suffer.
|▪||What are you carrying for your family, mother, father, grandparents, and further back?|
|▪||Have you taken on burdens out of love and loyalty that keep you from living an authentic life?|
|▪||Is it time for a new conversation, time to break a promise, or a vow you made unwittingly?|
We'll take an in-depth look into what we carry for our families through rituals, exercises, and Family Constellations. We will find gentle ways to surrender what is not ours and step onto our path with love and grace.
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TO THE HEART OF THE MATTER: THE SELF OF THE FACILITATOR
Finding your way in the field can be difficult. Often a facilitator will become immobilized, feel frustrated, alone, and set drift without a compass. This can be the result of hidden loyalties in the her family system, past trauma or fear, being activated by the client’s system.
In this FREE training, using short exercises and rituals, we will look deeply into the self of the facilitator, identifying personal blocks and blind spots, discover resources to help us to remain open and present, and re-connect to our creativity and vitality. We will seek the existential moment that takes us forward.
Saturday, March 18, 2023 2:00-5:00 PM EDT (New York)
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FRIDAY, MARCH 24, 2023 6:00-9:30 PM PDT
Unresolved issues from the past may cause the heart to shut down. If left unattended, this disruption in the flow of love, carried across generations, ripples into the shadows of the family landscape, often emerging as illness, emotional difficulties, and broken relationships.
Family Constellations is a unique, experiential approach to change. A kind of "living map," it provides a creative and profound way of seeing into these dynamics that shape our lives and the suffering we experience. It has the potential to touch us on a deep energetic level, often leading to a transformation in our lives and the lives of those around us.
Bill Mannle, LMFT, is a Gestalt and Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Connecticut, USA. As an international trainer and facilitator, Bill's involvement with Family Constellations began 20 years ago. He has conducted seminars in Connecticut, New York, California, Hawaii, Germany, Romania, Denmark, Australia, Mexico, Spain, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, Croatia, and China.
Interested in Constellation's ever-expanding form, he explores its more profound spiritual, heart-opening nature and the effects along the path.
THE EVENT WILL TAKE PLACE IN A PRIVATE RESIDENCE AND WILL BE LIMITED TO 10 PARTICIPANTS. A LIGHT FARE, ALONG WITH COFFEE AND TEA, WILL BE AVAILABLE.
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MAKING PEACE WITH YOUR EX HUSBAND/WIFE/PARTNER: ACKNOWLEDGING THOSE WHO CAME BEFORE
Every prior partner belongs to the family system, whether there was a recent separation, divorce, or premature death; even your great grandfather's first wife belongs.
Question: What happens in your body when you read this statement? Does anger emerge? Do you feel a tightening in your chest? Or does a touch of sadness and longing for what might have been whisper still?
When we settle and learn to see, really see, perhaps we can uncover, through all the turbulence, what was necessary to move on.
We will unpack the following questions and thoughts with rituals, Constellations, and small group exercises. We will enter a new conversation, perhaps finding deeper intimacy within ourselves, which allows us to acknowledge those who came before.
- What did your Ex teach you?
- Did you learn about sex together?
- What did you learn about love and how you want to be loved?
- Were external forces conspiring to end your relationship: Family, generational trauma, Religion, culture, war, race, or forced migration?
- Are you still angry with your Ex? How does your anger with your Ex keep you connected.
- If you have children together, your anger at your Ex only damages the part of your ex that lives in your children.
Acknowledging Generational Px-Partners.
Did your grandfather's or great grandfather's first wife suffer a significant fate? Premature death, perhaps? This event created a void in your Grandfathers life, a space eventually filled by your grandmother, and now you are here. Can you find a moment to recognize his first love/wife?
FEE: $49.00 USD
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ON THE EDGE OF JOY: 2023 BERKSHIRE RETREAT
To paraphrase Anthony de Mello,
"If you could let go of your conflicts, your anxieties, your tensions, your pressures, your emptiness, your loneliness, your despair, your depression,
your heartache, the entanglements--if you could let go of all that, stop haunting the past, and wishing you had different parents, what would you have? Sheer, undiluted, astonishing joy."
"To allow ourselves to be joyful is to have walked through the doorway of fear and claim our place in the living conversation."
Constellations allow us to release family and generational entanglements, guilt, and shame and invite us to step into something new. They invite us to stop, surrender and see what matters, the soul's deepest longing.
Throughout the weekend, via Constellations, rituals, and small group exercises, we will explore what keeps us from moving forward, standing still on the edge of joy.
The Retreat is in a private home surrounded by 32 acres of woods, fields, streams, and the Berkshire Mountains. Hillsdale NY-two hours from New Haven, CT, and Manhattan. Click Here to see the house.
The fee includes workshop, lodging, breakfast, lunch, and Dinner on Friday & Saturday; breakfast and lunch on Sunday. On Thursday evening, a light fare and snacks will be available. The food will include vegetarian and non-vegetarian selections. There will be gluten-free selections. However, I will not be able to accommodate strict diets. You are welcome to bring your wine, beer, etc
Space is limited to 12 participants! A $50 non-refundable deposit is required to guarantee your place. You cannot hold a place via text, email, or phone call. In past years the Retreat sold out in 10 days!
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N.B. Accommodations and bathrooms are shared, and meals are family-style.
Thursday, October 12th:
Arrive anytime after 4:00, relax and settle in.
A light fare and snacks will be available.
Gathering, 7:00-10:00 PM
Friday & Saturday, 10/13 & 10/14
12:00-2:00 Lunch and Rest
Sunday, October 15th
9:00-12:30 Workshop & Closing the Circle
12:30 Lunch and Farewells
Coffee, Tea & Water are available all weekend.
"Heartfelt thanks for making space for a beautiful memory. I feel complete and filled up from the life-affirming weekend retreat in Hillsdale.
Although terrified, I arrived at the prospect of almost three days and three nights with strangers. I felt quickly at ease in the energy of that beautiful house and its surroundings, my fellow retreaters' openness, warmth, humor, and Bill's strong and gentle presence and expertise in creating a safe atmosphere.
The movie title for the weekend would be "Cry Eat Laugh": Everyone who wanted to be the subject of a Constellation could flow in with time, space and reverence. We were all touched deeply by the Field and the magical dynamics of Constellating, whether as subject, representative, or witness. Then we ate, family-style, around a beautiful big table: Delicious food, nature's abundance, washed down with laughter. We entertained ourselves in the evening and learned more about each other through fun parlor games. People flowed in and out of these too. The loving, respectful, and welcoming space w held throughout the weekend.
When I tuned in for my morning practice today, I noticed a distinct relaxation in my lower belly. I could access a place that my "less-than," my "votes of no confidence for me"- my neuroses..previously occupied, and find open and spacious for the first time I can remember. I feel I have come home. I am indeed grateful. "KC
- You will be entitled to a Full Refund of fees, minus the deposit if you cancel at least 30 calendar days before the event's start date.
- If I cancel the event for whatever reason, you will be entitled to a Full Refund, including the deposit.
- Special consideration is allowed for emergencies and pandemic-related issues.
"What a remarkable class yesterday! It really was an extraordinary experience with stunning results, which the colleagues and I deeply appreciated. It is a courageous, loving group, and you gave them a brilliant instrument through which they could express these qualities. You offered them an unusual opportunity to dive into that difficult-to-get-to space where the past and present are one. It was amazing to watch as they accessed and recognized the origin of their suffering, and then shifted perspective, and thereby their reality, in a way that resulted in a vivid unburdening! The circle became a liberating, pain-killing time-machine! It is a fascinating and wonderful process, and you facilitated the circles beautifully, with insight, sensitivity, and wisdom. Wow!"
"I loved the workshop.
It was profound personally, and has greatly impacted my work, and how I see the world. Thank you so much. You have a wonderful energy and way of connecting so quickly and un-intrusively." B
"The workshop was incredible
and I cannot thank you enough.
Whether you were a participant in the actual family or an observer, it was equally powerful! Thank you for holding all that space for everyone, and you do so with such ease and grace." L