This seminar grew out of the question above: How Do You Want To Be Loved? 

When I would ask this question of clients, there often followed a pause, a slight shutter in the body, a deep sigh, and sometimes tears. I am interested in that pause, the body response, the exquisite raw emotion that said, "See me." 

I want to know what happens in the gap between the asking and the answer.

The question, is an invitation, and inquiry into a deeper, perhaps necessary conversation. 

Through rituals, exercises, and Constellations, we will explore the "HOW" "the WANT," and what happens in your body and heart when you allow the question to settle.

Fee: $49.00 USD

This ONLINE workshop Via ZOOM  is limited to 25 participants. 

Saturday, February 11, 2023

2:00-5:00 PM EST New York Time

Please check your time zones for participation

Click HERE to Register

Bucharest, Romania
May 20-24, 2023
Bertold Ulsamer and Bill Mannle
Open Workshop & A Constellations Master Class

Inscription LINK

Are you ready to take the next steps on your journey towards inner security and freedom? 
And reduce the frustrations associated with the thousand and one ways insecure coping mechanisms get in the way of enjoying life to the fullest?
The Journey to Secure LIVE Immersion is here to support you every step of the way!
Join a tribe of like-minded individuals on a journey of self-discovery and growth.
You'll be exploring the topic of attachment theory and polyvagal theory with an incredible team of presenters, and develop awareness and skills in self-regulation, self-care, and self-resourcing. 
Our stellar guest presenters:
❦ Derek Hart, bringing a new paradigm of intimacy in relating
❦ Francesca Gentille, Clinical Sexologist & Shaman, with 30+ years of experience supporting people on their journey of emotional, sexual, and spiritual empowerment
❦ Bill Mannle, LMFT, expert in family constellations work
Find the classes they will teach HERE
Plus five additional presenters bringing their original work around attachment theory to you:
❦ Philippe Lewis, founder and co-lead of the Journey to Secure immersions and educational board game, bringing deeper sense-making around attachment theory and nervous system regulation
❦ Naiya, co-lead and co-founder of the Journey to Secure and transpersonal therapist, bringing liberation through embodied expression
❦ Dolphin Kasper, coach, educator, and life breakthrough catalyst, brings a powerfully comprehensive picture of the human condition to the table as well as the tools you need to have your life and your relationships work like never before.
❦ Shayna, somatic healer & relational trauma coach exploring 
❦ Jaya Berged, theatremaker: bringing playful exploration to attachment theory, teaching growth through play
❦ Cyrena Giordano, our resident consent and anxious attachment style expert
Find the classes they will teach HERE
We can't wait to take these next steps with you!
Dates: July 7-11, 2023
Location: Dulzura near San Diego, CA
This retreat includes:
☞ 5 day / 4 night shared accommodations or camping (see below)
☞ 3 delicious meals per day & snacks
☞ Classes by amazing presenters in the field of Attachment Theory.
☞ Retreat-style format: one workshop room and everyone on the same journey of learning and growth, with the facilitators joining in as well!
☞ Adaptive schedule: we will adjust the schedule of classes based on the needs and desires of the group as the journey evolves.
☞ Note: Airfare and airport transfers are not included.
☞ Super Early Bird (limited spots, until 5/25) - US $1111
☞ Early Bird (limited spots, until 6/25) - US $1222
☞ Full Price - US $1333 US
☞ Youth (18-24yo) - partial scholarships available (contact us for details) 
Additional notes on accommodations:
☞ Semi-private spaces and larger queen beds are available but very limited and on a first come first served basis, with priority offered to those with special needs and couples. 
☞ Private glamping is available but very limited and on a first come first served basis, and includes a glamping tent, bedding, and power
☞ Camping, car-camping, and RV/trailer camping is available (Note: there is plenty of shade but this will be a hot time of the year)
Register HERE


To paraphrase Anthony de Mello,

"If you could let go of your conflicts, your anxieties, your tensions, your pressures, your emptiness, your loneliness, your despair, your depression,

your heartache, the entanglements--if you could let go of all that, stop haunting the past, and wishing you had different parents, what would you have? Sheer, undiluted, astonishing joy." 

"To allow ourselves to be joyful is to have walked through the doorway of fear and claim our place in the living conversation." 

David Whyte

Constellations allow us to release family and generational entanglements, guilt, and shame and invite us to step into something new. They invite us to stop, surrender and see what matters, the soul's deepest longing. 

Throughout the weekend, via Constellations, rituals, and small group exercises, we will explore what keeps us from moving forward, standing still on the edge of joy. 

The Retreat is in a private home surrounded by 32 acres of woods, fields, streams, and the Berkshire Mountains. Hillsdale NY-two hours from New Haven, CT, and Manhattan. Click Here to see the house. 

Fee $525

The fee includes workshop, lodging, breakfast, lunch, and Dinner on Friday & Saturday; breakfast and lunch on Sunday. On Thursday evening, a light fare and snacks will be available. The food will include vegetarian and non-vegetarian selections. There will be gluten-free selections. However, I will not be able to accommodate strict diets. You are welcome to bring your wine, beer, etc 

Space is limited to 12 participants! A $50 non-refundable deposit is required to guarantee your place. You cannot hold a place via text, email, or phone call. In past years the Retreat sold out in 10 days!

Click HERE to Register and Pay the Deposit

N.B. Accommodations and bathrooms are shared, and meals are family-style. 


Thursday, October 12th:

Arrive anytime after 4:00, relax and settle in.

A light fare and snacks will be available.

Gathering, 7:00-10:00 PM

Friday & Saturday, 10/13 & 10/14

7:30-8:45 Breakfast

9:00-12:00 Workshop

12:00-2:00 Lunch and Rest

2:00-5:30 Workshop

5:30-6:30 Relax

6:30 Dinner

Sunday, October 15th

9:00-12:30 Workshop & Closing the Circle

12:30 Lunch and Farewells

Coffee, Tea & Water are available all weekend.


"Heartfelt thanks for making space for a beautiful memory. I feel complete and filled up from the life-affirming weekend retreat in Hillsdale. 

Although terrified, I arrived at the prospect of almost three days and three nights with strangers. I felt quickly at ease in the energy of that beautiful house and its surroundings, my fellow retreaters' openness, warmth, humor, and Bill's strong and gentle presence and expertise in creating a safe atmosphere. 

The movie title for the weekend would be "Cry Eat Laugh": Everyone who wanted to be the subject of a Constellation could flow in with time, space and reverence. We were all touched deeply by the Field and the magical dynamics of Constellating, whether as subject, representative, or witness. Then we ate, family-style, around a beautiful big table: Delicious food, nature's abundance, washed down with laughter. We entertained ourselves in the evening and learned more about each other through fun parlor games. People flowed in and out of these too. The loving, respectful, and welcoming space w held throughout the weekend. 

When I tuned in for my morning practice today, I noticed a distinct relaxation in my lower belly. I could access a place that my "less-than," my "votes of no confidence for me"- my neuroses..previously occupied, and find open and spacious for the first time I can remember. I feel I have come home. I am indeed grateful. "KC


  • You will be entitled to a Full Refund of fees, minus the deposit if you cancel at least 30 calendar days before the event's start date.
  • If I cancel the event for whatever reason, you will be entitled to a Full Refund, including the deposit.
  • Special consideration is allowed for emergencies and pandemic-related issues.


From Barcelona: "Still under the positive effects it had in me the amazing workshop with Bill Mannle and Cecilia Altieri about constellations. Again Thank you!!!! Greetings to everybody in the workshop!!!" Susanna B.

"What a remarkable class yesterday!  It really was an extraordinary experience with stunning results, which the colleagues and I deeply appreciated.  It is a courageous, loving group, and you gave them a brilliant instrument through which they could express these qualities. You offered them an unusual opportunity to dive into that difficult-to-get-to space where the past and present are one.  It was amazing to watch as they accessed and recognized the origin of their suffering, and then shifted perspective, and thereby their reality, in a way that resulted in a vivid unburdening!  The circle became a liberating, pain-killing time-machine! It is a fascinating and wonderful process, and you facilitated the circles beautifully, with insight, sensitivity, and wisdom.  Wow!"

"I loved the workshop.
It was profound personally, and has greatly impacted my work, and how I see the world. Thank you so much. You have a wonderful energy and way of connecting so quickly and un-intrusively."   B

"It is important to know that so many people live their lives enduring such painful experiences, and it is like a miracle that a 15-minute constellation intervention can be so powerful and give them the insight and support they need to recognize their issue and find relief.  Your sensitivity and intuitive involvement was very impressive."   R

"The workshop was incredible
and I cannot thank you enough.
Whether you were a participant in the actual family or an observer, it was equally powerful!  Thank you for holding all that space for everyone, and you do so with such ease and grace."   L